Tag Archives: Observation

Exposing the Narcissist HR Job Applicant

Beware of the initial charm and exterior wrapping of a narcissistic employment candidate. If you were selecting the grab bag from under the tree, a narcissist would be the present wrapped in the prettiest wrapping paper and the biggest bow. … Continue reading

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HR Interviews are like the Gumbo of a Cop Interview

http://www.public-domain-image.com/public-domain-images-pictures-free-stock-photos/food-and-drink-public-domain-images-pictures/shrimp-gumbo.jpg Like a good gumbo, it is best to allow an opportunity for the ingredients to become familiar with each other and to blend. You add one ingredient at a time while cooking at a low to medium setting. Then turn up … Continue reading

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The Myth of 93% of Communication is Nonverbal

We have all heard of the study, “That we only use ten percent of our brains.” This myth has taken on the persona of the urban legend. It is inexplicably not true. If that were truly, our brain would atrophy … Continue reading

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The Eyes of Body Language

If you remove the “E” in eyes, you are left with yes. Sure, it may sound a bit hokie but the focus of your eyes will more likely lead to a yes. Combine the eYES with a smile and a … Continue reading

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Female Cops are Tough and Dependable

I was indifferent to female cop partners. The same went for race. As far as I was concerned, we all wore “blue.” My memory of three decades in law enforcement, recalls more comfort working with females. As a caveat to … Continue reading

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The Mirror of Body Language

Isopraxism is the fancy word for mirroring of another person. With most people, we see some degree of mimicking. Whether it is by style of dress, actions, manner of dress, or speech we all do it to some degree. This … Continue reading

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Sherlock Holmes Observation is not Elementary

Think about this. Tomorrow you will be struck in the head with a piece of the space shuttle and lose your sight. Would you spend your last day sitting in front of the flat panel TV or feverishly trying to … Continue reading

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