Category Archives: Observation

The Flaring and Crinkling Nose of Body Language

If you see someone flaring their nose like a bull getting ready to charge the matador, you might want to find an excuse to leave the room. This behavior is never a good sign. What else does the nose tell … Continue reading

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HR Interviews are like the Gumbo of a Cop Interview

http://www.public-domain-image.com/public-domain-images-pictures-free-stock-photos/food-and-drink-public-domain-images-pictures/shrimp-gumbo.jpg Like a good gumbo, it is best to allow an opportunity for the ingredients to become familiar with each other and to blend. You add one ingredient at a time while cooking at a low to medium setting. Then turn up … Continue reading

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Lips Reveal Emotions in Body Language

Have you ever listened to a bad joke and gave a halfhearted smile? You wanted to be polite and avoid conveying your true emotions. False smiles of obligation are easy to detect. Politicians like to give polite smiles, as he … Continue reading

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Are you Honest? How do stack up?

How honest are you? While walking through an urban park in the heat, you have worked up a thirst. You look over to see a display of refreshing bottled tea. Would you deposit the requested dollar donation in the box … Continue reading

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Rapport Building through the Eyes of others

Standing in the other person’s Flip Flops, is a technique that I use as an integrative approach to interpersonal communications. In our digital world, we have limited ability to develop relationships with our communication partners. As our world becomes more … Continue reading

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The Myth of 93% of Communication is Nonverbal

We have all heard of the study, “That we only use ten percent of our brains.” This myth has taken on the persona of the urban legend. It is inexplicably not true. If that were truly, our brain would atrophy … Continue reading

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The Eyes of Body Language

If you remove the “E” in eyes, you are left with yes. Sure, it may sound a bit hokie but the focus of your eyes will more likely lead to a yes. Combine the eYES with a smile and a … Continue reading

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Female Cops are Tough and Dependable

I was indifferent to female cop partners. The same went for race. As far as I was concerned, we all wore “blue.” My memory of three decades in law enforcement, recalls more comfort working with females. As a caveat to … Continue reading

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Secret Sense of Touch for Rapport

We all crave to be touched. Often, hospitals provide volunteers to rock infants that are not being provided the necessary endearments of love from parents that are unable to visit. Studies have continually shown the need for the attribution of … Continue reading

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The Mirror of Body Language

Isopraxism is the fancy word for mirroring of another person. With most people, we see some degree of mimicking. Whether it is by style of dress, actions, manner of dress, or speech we all do it to some degree. This … Continue reading

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